Archive for the ‘Women’ Category

I read mainly American publications as in More Magazine because they “celebrate women over 40″, Oprah magazine because in spite of the title it is not all about her and has some good articles. I will browse through the odd Vogue; what better way to spend valuable spare time than by looking at couture clothes that I cannot afford? My list is rounded out by Marie Claire because they have some top rate stories on the plight of girls and women around the world.

I often wonder why Canada doesn’t have similar magazines for women. I use to read Chatelaine because it kept me in touch with what Canadian women were thinking and doing but I have let my subscription lapse as during the past 18 months it seems so adrift with no handle on target audience, content or even the artistic layout. What was with all the food covers? It looks like Canadian Living.

I guess the Canadian print medias’ inability to appeal to a female readership, who want more than recipes and cleaning tips indicates that a quality publication for women over forty is definitely not in the works.

I used to be fairly in tune with my body. I still ‘know’ it but over the last year or so I have chosen to ignore it’s subtle messages. Consequently, I now have a second head cold in two weeks and a raging case of tonsillitis. Why at a time when we should be honoring our bodies are we decide to push it more? Is it a feeling that time is at our heels or an assumption that it still has the re-generative abilities that it possessed twenty years ago? When I feel better I am going to have a meeting with myself and re-evaluate my goals and priorities. I need to take a realistic look at what my body needs and adjust my schedule accordingly. I also realize that there are going to be some things that I am going to say “no” to but in the end I am glad that my wake-up call is a mild one.

I made the appointment two weeks ago for this Friday @ 2pm.
I booked a facial, an hour to relax, put myself in someone else’s hands and if nothing else to give my dry winter skin some much needed attention.

As the day gets closer, there are so many important things that I need to book into that time slot & numerous reasons to pick up the phone to cancel. I am also as usually working with my clients coaching them through the process of finding time for themselves and practicing self care.

So did I keep the appointment or cancel? Only my esthetician knows for sure.

I had a conversation the other day with another Life Coach about having children, or in this case about not having children and it got me thinking about my choices.
It was not that you get up one morning and decide not to have children. It’s your life and lifestyle evolving over the decades. In my twenties I was living, traveling, learning, doing. My thirties found me career orientated, my forties re-formatting the last twenty years and now I am just too busy.
As for the people in my life during that time, well it was my decision to make. I am not one to be influenced by others and if a man had a burning desire for a family then he was just not right for me.
Any latent maternal feelings are spread among other people’s children and my dogs and cats. I have no regrets; so if any other women is wondering, do what is right for you and be completely honest with yourself because only you have the answer.