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I like people but I also need my alone time which according to recent findings is going to lead to my early demise. Studies are becoming increasingly insistent that the more you interact with family, friends and co-workers the happier and healthy you are mentally and physically. One even went on to say that perhaps the medical profession may want to make some recommendations if a patient seems to be solitary. Prescription to read ‘meet two friends and call me in the morning’.
Some of us enjoy being by ourselves and don’t feel lonely nor are we in a state of inertia. We are of a personality type that need quiet time to de-stress and decompress. Which logically means being healthier.
Humans need peace and quiet so that creativity, problem solving and even healing can take place. I recently spoke with a client who had suffered a great loss; she admitted that what was wearing her out at this point was not the bereavement but the lack of time to herself. As well meaning friends and family kept calling and dropping by, she was trapped in a place of their need to comfort her.
Today’s society is over stimulated; requiring constant connection with something or someone. We are also passing this onto the next generation. In truth when we do embark on a friendship or relationship its growth and richness is nurtured by the fact that the individuals involved are self-sufficient, self-reliant and capable of autonomous thought.
I was thinking this morning while alone in the shower that we are fortunate Mozart didn’t spend all his time in coffee houses with his BFFs or Virginia Woolf wasn’t busy dazzling her followers on Twitter or she may never have written A Room of One’s Own which ironically is based on the premise that ‘A woman must have money and a room of her own if she is to write fiction’ .
My inspiration to write this post came from: I’m denying your friend request by Marni Soupcoff, National Post
A New Risk Factor: Your Social Life by Tara Parker-Pope, The New York Times
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1) Two Summer Movies for grown-ups
Hidden among Despicable Me and The Twilight Sage:Eclipse are two cinema gems that you may have overlooked. Both are worthy of a stolen afternoon in a cool movie theatre and some buttered popcorn.
2) Warriors in Pink
India’s gang of vigilante women are striking fear in the hearts of wrongdoers and earning the grudging respect of officials.
3) High Line Park, NY
From historic railway yards founded in 1930 to a functioning public park, it is a fascinating journey.
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The Forgotten Garden has been compared to Frances Hodgson Burnett’s The Secret Garden; even author Kate Morton writes veiled references to it in her book. If you expect that
quality of narrative and characters you will be disappointed. However if you are looking for the perfect summer read that will whisper “make a glass of ice tea and take me outside for half an hour” this is the book for you.
The story has a charm that takes one from page to page effortlessly. The lives of Nell, Cassandra and Eliza weave around you as their stories unfold in three different time periods.
Morton also wrote some interesting male characters in Linus and Nathaniel and it is a shame that she didn’t allow them to play a more pivotal role in the story line especially as it drew to an end. Linus in particular would have made the conclusion more affective. Instead the ending was predictable and the last few pages insipid but you are so engaged by that point you suffer through the harlequin style dialogue between Christian and Cassandra. I get the romance but Christian was not crucial to the plot that we have been following for over 500 pages.
A woman’s search to find her real family, fascinating fairy tales and a walled garden at the end of a maze all play a key role in everyone’s lives. Underneath all this is the question “How is home defined?” It is the place where we are born? The house that we return to at the end of the day? Is it being with family or that certain someone? Will one unexpectedly discover home while travelling? As the book illustrates we know when we have found home, but we don’t know where or even how it may come into our lives.
Kate Morton talks about her book.
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1 – An Interesting Woman: Maria Gunnoe
When you fight a big company, a town and a way of life the danger to one’s self and your family is real. Maria Gunnoe took on the big coal industry in Appalachia. Coal Country Crusade by Tamara Jones/More Magazine
2 - Nine of the most amazing bookstores in the world from The Huffington Post
3 - American Theatre Wing
An in depth look at what is playing on and off Broadway and behind the scenes.
Migraines are an ailment onto themselves. You get your full blown, you want to die ones. There is the mid-sized ‘I may make you take to a dark room, close to a toilet and not let you sleep or I might go away’ level and last is the mini migraine that I have had for awhile; the head pain is nagging and constant and your stomach is queasy but you can function.
Unfortunately though I choose this weekend to watch Shutter Island with Leonardo DiCaprio; not knowing that it has a very vivid scene that triggers a migraine for his character. That managed to kick my symptoms up a notch. I wonder too if anyone else finds that some of the commercials for migraine medication leaves them feeling slightly unwell?
Needless to say all this has left me quite ineloquent so let’s get to our …………..
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1) A good nights sleep can be so illusive; two very busy women HuffPost’s Arianna Huffington and Glamour’s Cindi Leive decided to embark on a month long Sleep Challenge 2010 and they blogged about its successes and failures.
2) An Interesting Woman: Gayla Trail
Gayla Trail is a writer, photographer, and graphic designer. She is the creator of the popular gardening project, You Grow Girl and the author of You Grow Girl: The Groundbreaking Guide to Gardening as well as an in-demand gardening personality and spokesperson with a focus on urban gardening, growing food, sustainable living, and community. Her own line of pithy gardening products
O magazine recently featured Gayla in How to grow your own herbs
3) Afganistan remains a paradox as these three reports illustrate
Afghan women swap burqas for police uniforms By Daphne Benoit
Lyse Doucet reports on the Afghan women jailed for bad character
A garden can be much more that than it seems Growing gardens, independence and esteem by Terry Glavin
I do it in the evening; Chris prefers to do it with his morning coffee. We have two delivered every day; the Calgary Herald and the National Post; when I am out & about I buy the Globe & Mail. In spite of all our efforts articles abound that the newspaper industry is in peril.
Is this slump in sales, partially due to different generational tastes yes, and it is also about lifestyle. Everyday I revel in, utilize and thoroughly enjoy the technology that puts the world at my figure tips. It allows me no limitations to where I can take both my coaching company and online magazine. However when it comes time to relax I prefer the print media format.
I don’t think we are seeing an end of print media so much as a time of rebirth. “We have a generation that is consuming information in totally different ways” says news anchor Kevin Newman in an interview that talks about his decision to leave his on air news job in order to explore the world of digital media. (Read Crossing digital divide, interview by Karen Mazurkewich)
Time’s Managing Editor Richard Stengel recently announced that ‘For the first time since the magazine’s birth in 1923, we will soon be delivering the entire contents of TIME to paying customers in a radically different way: as a self-contained application that you can download to the iPad. (From Ushering In a New Era)
Even though the competion for readership numbers is no longer about who has the news box on the corner of main and 1st street; the media companies are still choosing to handle the issues in a singularly autonomous fashion. Will the different media apps for devices such as the Blackberry or pay for content on the Internet prove to be the sustaining solution? Of all the articles being written on this subject, James Poniewozik sums up the current situation best in his editorial All the News That’s Fit to Mint
I think tackling the insatiable need for information and news in today’s world with a more united or partnering approach might prove to be the beginning of a solution for the media’s woes; in other words to go where no newspapers have gone before.
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1) There was once a time when I would plow through any book, now I have to agree with Sonya Chung the list of books that I haven’t finished has increased. From her column in The 
Millions blog read Sonya’s post – It’s Not You, It’s Me: Breaking Up With Books.
2) Things are so troubled for the Roman Catholic Church that it is easy to forget that there are some truly heroic nuns and priests doing some remarkable work in the world. From the NY Times Who Can Mock This Church? by Nicholas D. Kristof
3) Does your dog like to rock to Bono or is your cat more of a jazz fan? If you don’t think that they have a preference check out the world’s first Music fof Dogs concert, article by Amy Coopes.
I looked pretty good at the beginning of winter; everything was new and colour coordinated right down to my gloves and hat. It is now May and oh my god it snowed yesterday morning. So when I dressed to walk the dogs there was very little enthusiasm which may have been a mistake. I ended up wearing the old winter jacket that Chris and I both use when we take out the garbage, gloves were those $1- ones that you get at the grocery store and my thumb was coming through and to complete the ensemble my favourite Victoria’s Secret yoga pants that have seen a few too many washes. And I hadn’t even matched the right coloured leases to the dog’s collars.
Perhaps the standards have slipped somewhat but I must defend myself and say that it is May 29th. What was that? You saw me out walking this morning. No, that was another woman with a chocolate lab and Australian Shepherd – couldn’t have been me!
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1) An Interesting Woman: India Hicks
She was recently intervewed by Nathalie Atkinson when she presented at the Canadian Fragrance Awards in Toronto.
Her website: http://www.indiahicks.com/
2) Lambeth Palace Library
If you are in England between now and July 23rd set aside some time to visit the Lambeth Palace Library. In celebration of its 400th anniversary in 2010, the Library is showing its diverse collections of manuscripts, archives and books, some of which will be on display for the first time. Lambeth Palace is the official London residence of the Archbishop of Canterbury.
3) BP Oil Spill
LA GULF RESPONSE: “In the wake of the BP Oil Spill that is threatening our coast, local, regional and national conservation organizations are coordinating volunteers to assist in local, state and federal recovery efforts in Louisiana.
Our organizations – including the Barataria-Terrebonne National Estuary Program, the Coalition to Restore Coastal Louisiana, the National Audubon Society, the National Wildlife Federation and The Nature Conservancy – are established, active advocates for the preservation and restoration of coastal Louisiana ………..’”
Please visit http://lagulfresponse.org/home.html to volunteer or make a donation.
When it comes to my choice of television shows this season I seem to be experiencing some symptoms of having a multiple personality.
Love The Good Wife for all the right reasons; from the story lines, the clothes, to its strong female characters and if that isn’t enough I watch just to see how Christine Baranski can punctuate the end of a sentence with her expressive eyebrows.
Stepping back in time I confess to enjoying the very lusty and bloody Spartacus: Blood & Sand. Step aside Jon Hamm (Mad Men) and Bryan Cranston (Breaking Bad) the Emmy goes to John Hannah as Batiatus. This role takes him from supportive roles to carrying the majority of scenes and story line and he does that exceptionally well. In my defense for having this 18A rated show on my list it was a lusty and bloodied time……….wasn’t it?
Tom Hanks & Steven Spielberg have another classic with The Pacific. Done with the same finesse and attention to every detail as Band of Brothers, this is a great series. When the camera puts you right on the battle field you want to turn away but you cannot because if those young men can face the death and agony so can we.
In between these TV shows I am trying to read AS Byatt’s The Children’s Book; many reviews call it absorbing, I’ll let you know. So far it is a bit hard to get into. I will say that some basic knowledge of Edwardian England and an interest in the same is a prerequisite for reading this book. Thank goodness I have all those Masterpiece Theater shows behind me!
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This week I am bringing you a film site, a book and some perspective on reality TV.
1) The Auteurs, an online movie theater and gathering place for film lovers
http://www.theauteurs.com/dashboard
2) What’s Right with Reality TV by James Poniewozik
I was first going to skim this article because I thought it would be just about the reality shows but he went deeper; touching on generational and social changes which proved interesting.
http://www.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,1963739,00.html
3) This Book is Overdue by Marilyn Johnson
For all the closet librarians out there or info junkies like me this book looks perfect.
http://www.thisbookisoverdue.com/This_Book_Is_Overdue/Stop_Here_First.html
Check out the Librarian Blogs page.
I don’t like it when people complain about how busy they are; perhaps because it is often accompanied by a degree of smugness. Therefore I cannot really use that excuse as to why I don’t have a post this week. Truly though and written without smugness; in between clients, the magazine, other businesses and life in general I have been really busy.
Perhaps I will go with ‘Due to circumstance beyond my control’ but that doesn’t work either because as a coach I work with people to gain control over their lives. Which means writing that will tempt me to follow with the insipid ‘physician heal thyself’ quote.
I have therefore decided to provide you with the thesaurus page for the word busy and you can fill in the one that you like best.
As I have been really ……………… I am just going to post some interesting bits and pieces that I have come across
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1) Where is the Easter Bunny?
Easter is coming up and like so many special occasions I have been noticing how far from its roots it is getting. Take for instance this sign in my grocery store “Traditional Hot Cross Buns with chocolate chips” . Apparently I am not the only one who feels this way, from the National Post read Kim Bosch’s The Year the Bunnies Went Extinct.
2) Saffron
For all you foodies and aren’t we all. Shortage spurs sordid saffron smuggling from the Daily Telegraph.
3) The power of mom bloggers
This article re-enforces the power of social media marketing. Don’t mess with mom bloggers Hollie Shaw/Financial Post
International, US, Canadian that is the order in which I process information. Doing this when I read the newspaper is easy but when it comes to the internet it has become more of a challenge.
I have my IE browsers set for the US but an annoying pop up window keeps asking me if I want to go to the Canadian home page. I tell it ‘not to show me this again’ but every time they update it comes back. On Mozilla I finally get my Google search beaten into submission so it is set to Google.com not Google.ca. Then the same thing happens, an update and I’m back to square one. It is not that I have anything against local content but most of the time I need search results that cover a broad spectrum. In an attempt to be user friendly the companies that dominate this internet are also making the world less easy to access.
So what is happening to the World Wide Web? The use of www is now outdated, we no longer put it in our urls and everything related to it falls under the term Internet. Maintaining search engine optimization in today’s virtual world gets more & more complex and with that we often lose smaller but no less valuable sites.
Canada’s Privacy Commission has taken on FaceBook and more recently Google over privacy issues. Which is fine, intellectually I get it but the creeping in of government interference to ‘protect’ my interests can be a double edged sword. As they legislated Canadian simulcast commercials into the American stations (that I am paying for) will I one day turn on my computer to find that I only have access to a watered down version of certain sites that are seen as breaking Canada’s privacy laws.
The BBC is currently airing SUPERPOWER: Exploring the extraordinary power of the internet. A title that reminds us how we should neither take the Internet for granted nor try to harness its future potential.
With Your Biscotti & Coffee
1) Moms De Plume
Children’s books take on a new dimension with The Mischievous Mom at the Art Gallery
March 12th edition of the National Post
2) Sanitary pads…… made out of bananas?
While the title is a little humorous and wonderfully green, the motivation behind this product is a serious one. That thousands of women and girls around the world cannot go to school or work because they don’t have sanitary napkins.
Read the article & Watch the video Marie Claire Magazine
3) The Judy Project
Breaking down how the stereotyping of women in the work world is still prevalent
